I am a walking cliché

I still have those days where I wish I had “I’m not getting married anymore” tattooed on my forehead.  Yesterday was one of those days.  Three people asked me about the wedding before lunch time, including the lobby security guard in my office building.  (How on earth did he even know I was getting married…? )

When I really think about the reactions I got yesterday, a broken engagement is about as cliché as things get.  If this sounds like a slight exaggeration to you, think about it; when was the last time you had copious amounts of people say the following to you?  (Like, repeatedly in one week.)

• “Everything happens for a reason.”
• “Better now than after the wedding.”
• “You are better off without him.”
• “You’re not in love with him; you’re in love with the person you thought he was.”
• “He was always going to do this to you.”
• “He’s going to wake up one day and regret what he did.”
• “It’s hard to tell your mind to stop loving someone when your heart still does.”
• “Thank god he did it now instead of after you had children.”
• “You are young, you have time to find the right one.”
• “Time heals all wounds.”
• “It obviously wasn’t meant to be.”
• “There are other fish in the sea.”
• “You’ll get over this sooner than you think.”
• “Someone better is just around the corner.”
• “What comes around goes around.”

If you run into me on the street in the upcoming weeks, please, please, please refrain from saying any of these things to me.  I know you’re trying to help, and I truly love you for it, but I get it –“things always work out for the best”, right?

Tags: challenges, daily reminder, pushing forward